Jose Chameleone's ex wife Daniella Atim must have learnt a basket of lessons from her experience with Jose Chameleone's domestic violence tendencies.
A 2016 video that shows rapper Sean Diddy Combs physically abusing his girlfriend at the time, Cassie has gone viral and since then, many people have come out to give their views on it. The now extremely viral video was obtained by CNN and the rapper came out to react to it as well.
According to Diddy, he felt disgusted at his own actions. He regrets all these actions but says he successfully underwent therapy and is now a truly reformed man.
Jose Chameleone's estranged wife Daniella Atim has also come out to react to the said video, stating that having gone through a series of domestic violence in her marriage as well, she was triggered by this particular Diddy video. the video. According to Daniella, she felt overwhelmed just by watching this video, something many people would never understand.
She therefore went ahead and gave women going through traumatic emotions from having suffered domestic violence five important tips on how to deal with these resurfacing emotions. Daniella gave the following tips;
1.Get off those social media apps ,give yourself grace to breath ,it’s ok to take a break especially from all the ignorant commentary.
2. Dress nice ,look good and get outside ,spoil yourself, do your favorite activities. Go to the lake ,to your favorite restaurant etc. Just get outside . I took a 5 hour road trip to the Canada border and had lots of stop overs ,had my favorite coffee ,had a picnic along Lake Superior. I just allowed my skin to feel the sun, the water ,the grass. In the days following , I went to my favorite live music spot with @remmy_ma and also had a bonfire with my kids.
3. Comfort your inner young girl ,remind her that she is safe now ,re assure her that you are proud of her incredible resilience .Talk to yourself and say “Daniella ,you are safe now “.(you are not crazy for talking to yourself ).
4. Journal or write about how you feel in the moment ,let that steam out of your nervous system. You can even consider writing your former self a letter and reminding her about how badass she was then and how badass she is even now .
5. More importantly, pay attention to the people saying “why did she stay too long ,why didn’t she leave etc.” Those are not safe people ,those are not your people and you need to distance yourself from them.
Daniella further stated that when she was going through domestic violence, she constantly cursed at her abuser silently without being able to do anything to escape the violence. She therefore stated that no woman should feel guilty for cursing at their abuser.
"I also had a petty moment where I secretly and quietly mumbled cuss words at my abuser and that is ok too. Don’t feel guilty about it." She stated.
