It’s coming to the end of year holiday. The time to bond with family and spend quality time. For lovers it’s the time most intimacy plays. We are talking a lot of physical touch most notably s£x. s£x should be good for you that’s why the love jungle has created a self-care s£x guide that allows you to take control of your s£x life which can help improve your overall well-being.
They don't call self-care or self-love for nothing. Self-care is about giving our mental, emotional and physical health priority. While jogging, stress reduction, team building activities, getting some rest, face masking, spa day are a part of that, s£x should fit in the lineup, too.
Self-care is highly individual,If s£x makes you feel good physically, emotionally, spiritually or in some other way then it might qualify as a form of self-care.
If you want to improve your s£x life, s£xual relationship or just have more fun between the sheets, the way to do so is by taking a self-care approach. Here are some of the things one ought to think about:
PUT YOURSELF FIRST
The first rule is to focus on yourself. "Prioritizing your own needs is important in all relationships including s£xual relationships. Be willing to ask for what you want and set boundaries, too. Learning to be a receiver of pleasure is just as important as learning to be a giver. This can not only benefit you, but also the relationship for both of you.
CREATE RITUALS or REGULAR PRACTICES.
Do you know what puts you in the mood? Really puts you in the mood? To find these out one can make take this assignment.
Create a list with two columns; one labelled "Fire" and the other "Ice." Under "Fire," write down all the things that put you in the mood and/or make you enjoy s£x more. For example: being well-rested, flirting throughout the day, fantasizing about s£x , whatever. Under "Ice," list the things kill the mood, such as exhaustion, kids banging on the door, working late, drinking too much the day before anything. Update this list as needed and aim to facilitate more "fire" rituals into your daily routine.
ADD MORE FUN TO s£x.
Enjoying s£x is most effective when it's the norm as opposed to the exception. And that makes sense. The benefits of a one-off will be short-lived.
Scheduling s£x isn't a bad thing. In fact, it can be fun. Taking turns planning and instigating the activity counts. When one partner is always the one initiating s£x, it can lead to frustration and resentment. And create fun rules too to keep s£x fresh. For example, ban s£x from the bed for a few weeks use the bathroom etc or introduce a new toy every month.
BE IN THE PRESENT
Mindfulness is a big part of good s£x.It boosts s£xual satisfaction and will allow you to fully enjoy the s£xual experience more. Intentional breathing, visualization, emotional presence and touching can help. For example
Wave breathing: Visualize yourself lying on a beach. With each inhale allow the waves to roll over your body, and with each exhale allow the waves to retreat and roll back out.
Cloud breathing: Visualize yourself inside a warm fluffy cloud; with each inhale, allow the cloud to tighten over your body providing warmth and comfort and with each exhale allow the cloud to expand into the blue sky.
ALLOW YOURSELF TO SAY NO
We often think of improving s£x as saying "yes" more often, but that's not the case. If the pressure to have s£x causes you distress or is a source of tensioning the relationship, it's important to work to resolve this pressure. You can say no.
Make a commitment to say ‘no' without guilt. But also consider the reverse.What would you say "no" to despite a desire to say "yes?"
It may be difficult at first, but being honest about your boundaries and needs can be empowering and with time these communication skills will begin to arise naturally translating into greater satisfaction in and out of the bedroom.
