LOVEJUNGLE: Should I Or Shouldn't I date my friend's ex?
"Love has taken over" the perfect sentence to silence critics when you find your self in love with your friend's ex. Love surely puts us in awkward situations sometimes. The question is does it rhyme well with the bro or sis code. Most of the victims are the third wheels.
Those friends that are always around when you go on dates, or hanging out. While some things go unspoken of, many have lines drawn around them where they expect friends to respect or better yet bold them. Here In the LOVEJUNGLE we share on what we think one should consider not to be seen as a wolf in a sheep's cloth among his or her peers.
1. Where you eyeing her/ him while in their relationship?
Some people strongly believe when there is no ring on it, there are no boundaries. here you find one flirting with a friend's partner with a disguise of jokes, next thing you know they are touching.
if you know you were giving them the eye or even took things further while your friend was still in a relationship with this person, you were wrong from the start and it’s most likely going nowhere.
2. How long have you been friends?
If you can't help but fall in love with this guy or babe. Think about your friendship and weigh your options well. If this guy is your childhood friend and you find him to be sister or brother from another mother. Think thrice, which bond is stronger and if the are willing to let u be with thier ex. If the answer is, you were just acquaintances and didn’t talk regularly. There is a slight chance that it's ok to date that persons ex, however it would be important to talk to him or her and proceed once there are no ill feelings.
3. What kind of relationship did your friend have?
Was it a sexual fling, did they have actual feelings for one another, was it long term or short term. Here is where you can find out how your friend will react once they find you are dating their former significant other. If this ex was someone that was a fling, a relatively short-term relationship and not the former love of her life, we would say proceed and see where things go.
4. Is it completely over between your Friend And Her?
Sometimes when there is unfinished business and both are still single, dating the ex will just make things messy all around but if they have tried every way from Sunday and both eventually said, I’m over it, the ex could be fair game. Can you imagine if one of them is thinking in the back of their mind that they would be open to trying again and you are in the mix.
5. What role did you play while the where still dating?
If at any one time you were a go between that both parties trusted when they were together or you were her listening ear and heard all of the wonderful things about him as well as the troubles in the relationship, don't touch that. Infact don't be called that person with a different agenda the whole time.
The questions to ask yourself before engaging in this kind of relationship can't be exhausted. if you have the option of not dating a friend's ex, take that road. but like I said Love has its own ideas, we don't need to fight too much and live life.
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